What is Find Tyler About?
Vincent L. Brown Jr. has been searching for his son Tyler Ray Brown believed to have been renamed Tyler Ray Alvarez since he was 2 weeks old. At the age of 2 weeks, Tyler’s mother Melissa A. Pettit now believed to be Melissa A. Alvarez and Vincent we’re no longer romantically involved, They parted ways 5 to 6 months prior to his birth and had no contact with one another other than a few messages sent through Vincent’s mother from Melissa to Vincent, and Melissa’s call to him the day Tyler was born. They exchanged heated words in an argument over visitation time allowed the last time he saw his son. Two weeks later when he attempted another visit with his son she had moved and left no forwarding phone or address for him to find them by.
They had no common circles of friends even for Vincent to know where to look for her or how to contact her. After a small amount of time passed he filed for child support and paternity 1st in Springfield, Ohio/Clark County since that is where Tyler was born only to learn that he must file in the county the mother lives in. Her last known address to him was in Fairborn, Ohio / Greene County so he filed there. His hope was that this would help him 1.) Locate and have visitation with his son. 2.) Establish support for his son and 3.) Establish paternity which was now a question in his mind due to the way Melissa just disappeared.
Sadly the courts reported since she no longer lived at the last address he had without a new address there was nothing he or they could do. More time passed and Vincent now really questioned paternity due to how Melissa disappeared but wanted to know the truth and connect with his son if the baby was his. He was advised by a father’s rights group to send Sherriff’s to a good address for a well check on the baby. As stated above he had no forwarding address so Vincent sent the Sheriffs to Melissa’s parents home. Per the Sheriff’s report. Melissa’s parent’s stated they had not seen Melissa or the baby in over a year and had no clue of a way to contact her. Vincent knew then that the cards were stacked against him. He knew short of showing up at her parent’s house irate and incurring legal charges he had no idea what to do next or how to get answers.
Tyler was born in 2000 so this was all before social media and mainstream internet was readily available. Vincent never let the thoughts of his son leave his mind let alone his heart and always shared the story with others hoping someone might have crossed paths with Melissa and know her whereabouts. He said even if he ran across people who “use” to know her there was never anyone helpful with how to reach her or knew where she was now. Once he obtained an in-home computer and media was starting to become popular he searched as best he could but never found anything promising. It is key to know that before the events above Melissa was not only romantically involved with Vincent but was, in fact, a co-worker and an associate of his mothers Avella (Meme) Brown. Meme and Melissa both worked at Oesterlen Youth Services in Springfield, Ohio. They spoke often in person, by phone and during visits at Meme’s home. So while Vincent could not find Melissa, She at any time could have reached out to his mother to ensure that Tyler knew his paternal family but never in 18yrs did that happen. Meme shared that Melissa mentioned in conversation more than once how beautiful mixed babies we’re and wanting a bi-racial baby but not being bothered with the father. She said never in a million years did she think she was serious and never did she think this nightmare would turn out to be her son & grandson. She says it has been very painful watching her son look for her grandson all these years.
Vincent married and started a family of his own but never gave up on Tyler he shared the story with his wife early in their dating. His wife began to help him search and even sent a letter and a few cards to Melissa’s parents home with pics of his now younger sister and information for them to contact them or even their church pastors to begin a relationship and to reunite Vincent with his son. It has always been felt that the disappearing was due to Vincent being black and of less money than Melissa’s family. Vincent’s wife being bi-racial herself shared this in the letter in hopes that it would be a bridge. That she understood the issues and concerns of being a mixed race child/family. But that letter and none of the cards sent to the parents home were ever responded to.
Now finally due to social media, we feel we have found Tyler and that he has been here in Xenia, Ohio the entire time under Melissa’s married name Alvarez. Now with new information, days after his 18th birthday Tyler was searched for under his mother’s married name and found on Instagram. Other public media accounts were found for his Mother and Step-Father, and his Step-Father’s family. All were found with photos of Tyler at various ages throughout the years. The photos were very clear about one thing for sure. Tyler looks very much like his father’s twin, a spitting image of his paternal grandfather, and show he has an almost eerie likeness to his brother and sister.
Vincent was able to reach Tyler via Instagram message and shared with him that he was his real father. Tyler asked if Vincent had the right kid and mom and if so what was his mom’s name. Vincent shared with him the copy of his newborn pic and original birth certificate he had kept all these years. Showing Melissa’s maiden name and Vincent’s name, of course, along with Tyler’s birth name all on his original birth certificate (See Photos). Tyler stated he always felt something was off or missing but didn’t know what and that he thanked God for Vincent finding him finally and that his Dad never gave up looking. He stated his mother/parents never told him that he had another father. Tyler had one phone conversation with Vincent and all other messages were sent via text.
Tyler also connected with his brother and sister on snap chat and was connected with Vincent’s wife via Instagram. He shared with his sister that he attends Legacy Christian Academy in Xenia, Ohio and that he was the manager of the wrestling team. That he enjoyed Yahtzee and would be learning to drive soon. His Dad and Step-Mom share that his communication seemed intelligent but that his personality came off as very child-like, naive, passive and accepting. They state without knowing they wonder if there are any issues with developmental disabilities or social delays that would make it easy for someone to sway him from the truth of who he is and how long his Dad has searched for him.
4 days of communication passed and then out of the blue before plans to meet face to face could be finalized without warning or cause all communication stopped. No calls or text are being returned and all social accounts have been removed or blocked as of 4/20/2018. Thoughts are either it was Tyler we were in contact with and the family is trying to stop him yet again from knowing his father and paternal family -OR- someone who knows this story has pulled a cruel joke and catfished Vincent and his family. Either way, this site was created not to offend anyone but to help figure things out and get to the bottom of it all once and for all.
If you know this family please reach out to them and us. If you have seen this young man please reach out to him and us. Help us finally reunite a father and his son. Tyler’s father and paternal family are just waiting to get to know him and love him. Share this site with as many as possible in the event a friend of a friend may be able to help.